Only those things that you believe of yourself,
when said by another, will stick.
In other words, what is said to, or of you, that
you believe, can only reinforce your own self
Have a look – see if this rings true for you?
Remember those times when he said how lovely
you look, feel, smell…? And how you believed him,
cos it felt so right and true……you felt deelicious,
sexy and fabulous!
And then those other times when he said it, and it
just didn’t feel true and you felt tired, dull and fat……
and you said so….
And remember when he said, with a giggle, you
were useless at reading maps and giving
directions…….and how you laughed with him,
cos you knew it was not true! You are great at
getting yourself to places……
And then another time when he criticised you for
the same thing and you blew!
So, you see, whatever anyone says about you and
there is an element of truth in it for you and you
have a judgement about it, you will feel triggered
If there is an element of truth and you are at peace
with that part of yourself, like – ‘you are always late!’
It is more likely that you will feel ok.
And if you are not at peace with that part of yourself
that is ‘late’ you are likely to give a defensive retort or
seethe in silence
Working on our own self beliefs (the good, the ‘bad’
and the ‘ugly’) will reduce the things that trigger us.
Being at peace with all of our ‘aspects’ will lead to
not having to hide them, defend them, make
ourselves ‘wrong’ , be hurtful to ourselves and others….
Being at peace with all of our selves will lead us into self
love, joy and peace and into great relationships with
ourselves, him and others too!